Three Must-Dos doesn’t get written about often, which is partly why the practitioners who own it tend to keep owning it. The information barrier to entry is real even when the technical barrier isn’t.
Aimed at divorce financial coaches at any career stage who have started seeing referrals in Three Must-Dos and want to know what the work actually looks like once you commit to it.
The economics of Three Must-Dos engagements for divorce financial coaches usually favor flat-fee or tiered-fee structures over hourly billing. The work is well-defined enough to scope cleanly, and clients usually prefer predictable costs. Coaches who develop reliable scoping templates can produce consistent margins where hourly-billed coaches absorb variable amounts of scope creep.
The first meeting
A useful intake habit: ask the client to articulate, in their own words, what they’re hoping the engagement will produce. The answer reveals where the client’s expectations align with what Three Must-Dos engagements actually deliver and where they don’t. Closing the gap before the engagement starts saves significant friction during the matter.
Document the intake. Either contemporaneous notes you keep in the file or a follow-up summary email to the client. Three Must-Dos engagements involve enough small decisions across long timelines that working from memory six months in produces errors.
What happens in the middle phase
Analytical work during the middle phase often produces interim findings that affect the engagement scope. A finding the client didn’t anticipate may open new questions; a finding consistent with expectations may close lines of inquiry. The engagement letter should anticipate these scope adjustments and provide a path for handling them without requiring full re-papering.
Communication discipline during the middle phase prevents most of the problems that show up at the deliverable. Practitioners who send the client weekly or biweekly written updates — even short ones — maintain trust and surface issues early. Practitioners who go silent during the analytical work leave the client to imagine what might be happening, which is rarely productive.
What gets produced
Most Three Must-Dos deliverables follow a consistent format that practitioners refine over multiple matters. An executive summary at the top. Background and scope. Methodology. Findings. Conclusions and recommendations. Appendices with supporting documentation. Practitioners who maintain a template they refine engagement by engagement produce stronger deliverables faster than those who reinvent the format each time.
The deliverable for a Three Must-Dos engagement is the work product everyone will reference for years afterward. It needs to be defensible (your analysis can withstand scrutiny), readable (the client and any non-specialist can understand it), and complete (it addresses what the engagement was scoped to address). The deliverable usually takes 20-40% of the engagement hours; underestimating this consistently produces matters that run over time. For deeper reference, see ABA Family Law Section resources.
When the standard doesn’t apply
Three Must-Dos engagements vary along a few predictable dimensions: client sophistication (institutional client vs. unsophisticated individual), case complexity (single straightforward question vs. multiple intertwined issues), opposing-side cooperation (cooperative vs. adversarial), and timeline pressure (negotiated timeline vs. court-imposed deadlines). Each dimension affects how the standard engagement pattern needs to adjust.
Pro bono or reduced-fee Three Must-Dos engagements present a specific risk: the temptation to deliver less rigorous work than the practitioner would for a paying client. Pro bono cases that go wrong because of insufficient analytical rigor damage practitioner reputation more than paying cases that go wrong, because the quality gap is visible.
The practitioners we see succeed in Three Must-Dos share a few habits: they show up consistently at the same professional events, they invest in templates and infrastructure, they keep peer relationships current, and they treat each matter as a chance to refine their approach.
How VennBoard fits in
If you’re building a focus on Three Must-Dos, the case-management infrastructure matters more than most practitioners think going in. VennBoard is built specifically for family-law-adjacent practitioners and handles the document organization, the multi-party coordination, and the engagement-management that makes long-arc matters manageable.
If you’re a cdfa building a focus on Three Must-Dos and looking for the operational backbone, visit VennBoard.com to see how it fits into your practice.
Further reading
IRS Publication 504 (Divorced or Separated Individuals)
Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement