Every family-law-adjacent practice has a few engagements per year where the case turns on Three Must-Dos. The practitioners who handle those moments well were preparing for them long before they happened.
Written for family-law attorneys thinking about how to position around Three Must-Dos for the next three to five years, not the next quarter.
Practical reality for litigators: Three Must-Dos work often becomes evidence. Memos written during analysis can show up in depositions; assumptions baked into early analyses get cross-examined. Family-law attorneys handling Three Must-Dos should write analytical work as if it might be read by opposing counsel — because in contested matters, it often is.
The factors that drive decisions
A reliable decision framework for Three Must-Dos matters starts with separating the technical questions from the strategic questions. Technical questions (what does the law say, what does the math produce, what does the document indicate) can be answered relatively objectively. Strategic questions (what should the client do given the technical answers, what trade-offs make sense, what risks are acceptable) require professional judgment integrated with the client’s values.
Practitioners who work through Three Must-Dos decisions systematically — identifying the key facts, the applicable legal standards, the practical options, and the consequences of each — produce client-facing recommendations that hold up over time. Practitioners who rely primarily on intuition produce recommendations that feel right in the moment but fail more often than they should.
Connecting the data to the decision
Working through the analysis benefits from explicit documentation. A spreadsheet that shows the inputs, the calculations, and the conclusions. A memo that walks through the legal framework. A decision tree that maps the options. Practitioners who write down their analysis produce work product they can defend later; those who keep the analysis only in their head produce conclusions that can’t be audited.
Evaluating the answers to Three Must-Dos questions usually involves weighing competing considerations. The legal framework may produce one answer; the financial analysis may produce another; the client’s risk tolerance may produce a third. Practitioners who can hold these multiple frames simultaneously — and articulate the trade-offs — produce better recommendations than those who default to a single frame.
Recognizing the limits of solo analysis
Specific scenarios where additional input is warranted: when the matter involves a non-standard asset class, when the legal framework is genuinely contested or shifting, when the client’s situation has psychological or behavioral dimensions affecting decisions, or when the financial stakes are high relative to the client’s overall picture. In each case, the cost of bringing in a colleague is small compared to the risk of producing work that misses important considerations.
Practitioners who maintain a working network of colleagues across adjacent disciplines have the option to consult quickly when matters touch their boundaries. Practitioners who work in isolation either accept the risk of incomplete analysis or refuse engagements they could have handled with a 30-minute conversation with a peer. For deeper reference, see IRS Publication 504 (Divorced or Separated Individuals).
Creating defensible work product
The work product that survives scrutiny includes the methodology section. A clear statement of what was done, what sources were reviewed, what assumptions were made, and what conclusions follow. Practitioners who skip this section produce conclusions that opposing experts can attack as opaque; practitioners who include it produce work that withstands challenge effectively.
Practical documentation discipline: every significant analytical choice should appear in writing with a brief explanation of why. Why did we use a 4% discount rate rather than 6%? Why did we structure as alimony rather than property transfer? Why did we recommend mediation rather than direct negotiation? These reasoning notes don’t have to be lengthy; they have to be present.
If you’re considering Three Must-Dos as a focus area and you want one concrete commitment to make: pick the upcoming family-law conference closest to you and commit to attending every year for the next five years.
How VennBoard fits in
If you’re building a focus on Three Must-Dos, the case-management infrastructure matters more than most practitioners think going in. VennBoard is built specifically for family-law-adjacent practitioners and handles the document organization, the multi-party coordination, and the engagement-management that makes long-arc matters manageable.
If you’re a family law attorney building a focus on Three Must-Dos and looking for the operational backbone, visit VennBoard.com to see how it fits into your practice.
Further reading
National Center for State Courts
ABA Family Law Section resources