Three Must-Dos is one of those areas where the practitioners who actually do the work are usually too busy to write about it, and the ones who write about it tend to do less of it. This piece tries to split the difference.
Written for divorce financial coaches considering Three Must-Dos as one of several possible practice directions, with limited time to evaluate which one is worth pursuing.
Divorce financial coaches handling Three Must-Dos need to coordinate with the family-law attorney on the matter. The attorney drives legal strategy; the coach provides financial analysis. Effective coaches identify and respect this boundary — they don’t drift into legal advice — while still providing analysis that supports the legal strategy effectively.
Conventional practice
Standard Three Must-Dos practice has become well-defined enough that CLE programs, professional standards bodies, and practitioner texts all describe roughly the same workflow. The substantive details vary by jurisdiction and matter, but the structural pattern is consistent across most practitioners doing the work.
The recognized standard for Three Must-Dos engagements involves five identifiable phases: intake, scoping, analytical work, deliverable production, and closing. Most divorce financial coaches who have handled the work for several years would describe their process in these terms, even when they don’t use the same labels.
The gaps in standard approach
The standard approach to Three Must-Dos fails in identifiable ways. The first is when the matter has unusual structural features (multi-state, international, business-owner with complex compensation) that the standard workflow doesn’t accommodate well. The second is when the parties have unusual dynamics (high conflict, significant power imbalance, financial abuse) that the standard intake doesn’t surface. The third is when the substantive area has been changing recently and the standard analytical methods haven’t caught up.
Practitioners who do Three Must-Dos consistently see the same standard failures across years. Matters where the analytical methodology produces technically correct results that don’t fit the specific situation. Matters where the standard intake misses important context. Matters where the standard deliverable format doesn’t serve the actual case need. Recognizing these failure patterns at intake — and adjusting — is one of the markers of mature practice.
Alternative approaches worth considering
Alternative approaches that work better in specific contexts: tiered engagement structures (separate diagnostic, analytical, and closing engagements with separate fees) for high-uncertainty matters; collaborative engagement structures (multiple divorce financial coaches working as a team) for unusually complex matters; phased engagement structures (initial consultation followed by deferred full engagement) for clients who aren’t yet ready to commit to full scope.
Seasoned practitioners also vary the deliverable format based on the matter. Standard memo format for negotiation-track matters. More extensive written report for litigation-track matters. Oral presentation with supporting materials for mediation-track matters. The same underlying analysis, presented in different formats, lands differently in different contexts.
Matching the approach to the specific case
The skill that develops over years isn’t memorizing more approaches — it’s recognizing matter type quickly and selecting the right one. This pattern-recognition can’t be taught directly; it accumulates from handling matters repeatedly and debriefing what worked and what didn’t. For deeper reference, see Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement.
Choosing the right approach for a specific Three Must-Dos matter starts with reading the case carefully at intake. Is this a procedurally clean matter or a contested one? Are the parties cooperating with discovery or fighting it? Is the timeline driven by negotiation or by court calendars? The answers shape which version of Three Must-Dos workflow makes sense.
Most practitioners who eventually own Three Must-Dos in their market started without a clear plan and built it engagement by engagement. The plan that emerges in retrospect rarely matches the one they would have written at the start.
How VennBoard fits in
VennBoard helps divorce financial coaches build the operational backbone Three Must-Dos engagements require — engagement letters that handle the scoping conversation in writing, case files that stay organized across long matters, communication tools that keep the broader case team coordinated, and the infrastructure that lets the practitioner focus on the analytical work rather than the administrative drag.
Learn more about how VennBoard fits into a cdfa practice focused on Three Must-Dos at VennBoard.com.
Further reading
IRS Publication 504 (Divorced or Separated Individuals)
National Center for State Courts